Amathiphu Lapho Umntwana Wenqaba Ukulala Ubaba

Baba ndini!Ngingathi izinto ezinjengalezi zenzeka ezinganeni eziningi futhi ngokuvamile, umama uba intandokazi, ngoba nje sivame ukuba seduze kakhulu.Ngalokho angisho intandokazi ngomqondo “uthande kakhulu”, kodwa kuphelaekhethwayo ngenxa ye hkancanengempela. 

Kuvame kakhulu ukuthi izingane zidlule ezikhathini zokukhetha umzali oyedwa kuphela ezimweni ezihlukahlukene (noma zonke).

Ukukhathala kumzali othandwayo, okudabukisayo ngonqatshiwe.

 

NIKEZA UBABA ISIBOPHO ESIPHELELE EBUSUKU

Kungenzeka ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi nguwena ovame ukwengamela indodakazi yakho ebusuku yingakho ixosha ubaba.

Uma ufuna ngempela ukushintsha lokho njengamanje, cishe kuzomele umnikeumthwalo ogcwele ebusuku- njalo ebusuku.Okungenani isikhashana.

Lokhu, nokho, kungase kube nzima kakhulu ukukusebenzisa njengamanje, kini nonke.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, usho ukuthi ubaba usebenza ebusuku ngezinye izikhathi.Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngisho noma ubaba efisa ukulala nendodakazi yakho, kuwushintsho lwendlela yakhe YENA, futhi mhlawumbe hhayi nhlobo lokho akulindele, akufunayo futhi akudingayo lapho ivuka ebusuku.

Izingane ziyizithandani ezijwayelekile.

Esikhundleni salokho, zama amathiphu amabili angezansi kuqala, futhi uma lezi zinto sezisebenza, ungahambisa ukuze uvumele ubaba aphathe ubusuku.

 

I. AKE UBABA ABANDLA UMSEBENZI WOKUQALA WOKULALA kusihlwa

Okunye okungenzeka ukuthiake ubaba alawule indlela yokuqala yokulala kusihlwanoma mhlawumbe ngesikhathi sokulala emini.

Iqhinga liwukuthi badedele ngempela bobabilithola eyabo indlela (entsha).ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa.Ngale ndlela bazothola imikhuba yabo emisha futhi indodakazi yakho izokwazi ukuthi ingancika kule mizila ethokomele nobaba.

 

II.IFAKE UMNTWANA EMBHEDENI WAKHO UMA IVUKA

Enye into ongayizama ukungamgcini ezingalweni zakho ukuze ubuye ulale ebusuku, kodwa kunalokhomfake embhedeni wakho phakathi kwenu nobabili okwesikhashana.

Ngale ndlela bobabili umama nobaba bazobe bekhona, okungase kusho ukuthi uzokwamukela ubaba amsize ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Nokho, kufanele uqaphe ngokulala ndawonye, ​​ngoba kungase kube ingozi yangempela enganeni yakho.Ngakho-ke hlala uphapheme noma uqiniseke ukuthi usebenzise zonke izindlela zokunciphisa ubungozi zokulala ndawonye.

 

ZIPHATHA IMIZWA YAKHO

Nakuba konke lokhu kuqhubeka, indlela umama nobaba - ikakhulukazi ubaba - abazizwa ngayo ngakho cishe kubaluleke kakhulu kunesimo sangempela;lakhoinganemhlawumbe akayiboni inkinga, ufuna umama nje...

Ngabuza umyeni wami ukuthi kungaba yini iseluleko sakhe esingcono kakhulu sikababa nobaba kulesi simo;ngokusobala, ubelapho izikhathi eziningi.Yilokhu akusho:

Zama ukuawudedele umuzwayokudumala kanye/ nokuzizwa udabukile noma unomona noma uthukuthelele umkakho.Ingane idinga nje ukuthi idinga bani futhi lokhu kuyahlukahluka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.Kunalokho, sebenzisa isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka nendodakazi yakho futhi umvuzo uzofika!

Okudingwa izingane kakhulu ukuze zizizwe ziphephile kumuntu othile (umama, ubaba noma nanoma ubani) yisikhathi sokuba ndawonye.Ziphathe kahle ngalesi simo, ungaphoqi lutho.Kunalokho vele ube naye kakhulu ngendlela eyakhayo, emini noma ebusuku.

 

Ngakho-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi ithiphu yethu ehlanganisiwe iwukubavumela umntwana abe nomama lapho efuna futhi uqinisekise ukuthi ubaba uyavunyelwa noma nini lapho kungenzeka.Khumbula ukuthi kujwayelekile ukuthi ingane ingafuni ukulala ngobaba.Kujwayelekile nasezinganeni ezisacathula!

Khuluma ngokusebenzisa isu (okubandakanya ukulala, ukulala embhedeni nanoma yini) uma ubusuku bubalulekile kuwe.


Isikhathi sokuthumela: Feb-20-2023